☣️ Am I Toxic?

The hardest question to ask yourself. Be brutally honest.

📋 How this works

1 Select one answer for each question
2 Note the points next to your answer (1-4 points)
3 Add up your total score at the end
4 Check the results table to see what it means

QUESTION 1

Do you check his phone when he’s in the shower?

Never, I respect his privacy
+1

Only if I have a reason
+2

Yes, regularly
+3

I check it every chance I get
+4

QUESTION 2

Do you get mad if he likes another girl’s photo?

No, it doesn’t bother me
+1

A little jealous but I hide it
+2

Yes, we fight about it
+3

I make him unfollow them
+4

QUESTION 3

Have you ever tried to make him jealous on purpose?

Never, that’s childish
+1

Maybe once years ago
+2

Yes, to test his reaction
+3

I do it regularly
+4

QUESTION 4

How do you react when he wants to hang out with friends without you?

I encourage it — he needs his own life
+1

I’m fine but ask who’s going
+2

I get sad or guilt trip him
+3

I forbid it or start a fight
+4

QUESTION 5

Do you bring up past mistakes in every argument?

No, I focus on the current issue
+1

Sometimes if it’s relevant
+2

Yes, I keep a mental list
+3

I bring up everything he’s ever done wrong
+4

QUESTION 6

Do you give him the silent treatment?

No, I communicate
+1

For an hour maybe
+2

For a day or two
+3

For days or until he begs
+4

QUESTION 7

Is it always his fault after a fight?

No, I can admit when I’m wrong
+1

Sometimes I apologize first
+2

I wait for him to apologize
+3

I never apologize
+4

QUESTION 8

Do you need constant reassurance and attention?

No, I’m secure
+1

A normal amount
+2

Yes, I text him constantly
+3

I panic if he doesn’t reply fast
+4

📊 Your Results

Add up your points from all 8 questions:

What Your Score Means

8-13

🟢 Green Flag

You’re secure and self-aware. Everyone has moments of insecurity, but you don’t let them control your behavior. You communicate, you trust, and you respect boundaries. Keep doing the work.

14-20

🟡 Yellow Flag

Some behaviors to watch. You have moments of insecurity or control, but you’re not extreme. Work on communication and self-soothing. Ask yourself: Am I acting from love or fear?

21-28

🟠 Orange Flag

You have toxic patterns that are likely pushing people away. The jealousy, control, or emotional manipulation is real. Time for honest self-work — therapy, journaling, or serious reflection. You can change.

29-32

🔴 Red Flag

Your behavior is causing real harm in your relationships. The need for control, the lack of trust, the emotional manipulation — these are red flags. Consider therapy seriously. You deserve healthy love, but you have to build the foundation first.

Am I Toxic? Quiz