⛓️ Is My Girlfriend Controlling?

Love or control? The line is thinner than you think.

🚩 Read this first

Control often starts small — “just concerned,” “just protective” — and grows. If you’re taking this quiz, something already feels off. Trust that feeling.

📋 How this works

  • 1 Select one answer for each question
  • 2 Note the points next to your answer (1-4 points)
  • 3 Add up your total score at the end
  • 4 Check the results table to see what it means

QUESTION 1
Does she tell you what to wear or criticize your outfits?



QUESTION 2
Does she isolate you from friends or family?



QUESTION 3
Do you feel like you’re “walking on eggshells” around her?



QUESTION 4
Does she check your phone, DMs, or social media?



QUESTION 5
Does she get angry when you don’t reply fast enough?



QUESTION 6
Does she make all the decisions in the relationship?



QUESTION 7
Does she accuse you of flirting with everyone?



QUESTION 8
Do you feel like you’ve lost yourself in this relationship?



📊 Your Results

Add up your points from all 8 questions:

What Your Score Means

8-13

🟢 Green Flags

She respects your autonomy, your privacy, and your independence. Healthy relationships have space for both people to be themselves. Green flags all around — keep communicating and growing together.

14-20

🟡 Yellow Flags

Some controlling behaviors are showing up — jealousy, criticism, or subtle isolation. This is the time to set boundaries. Have a conversation now, before these become patterns. “When you do X, it makes me feel Y. I need Z.”

21-28

🟠 Red Flags

This is controlling behavior, not love. The walking on eggshells, the phone checking, the isolation — these are serious. You deserve a partner who trusts you, not one who monitors you. Reach out to trusted friends and consider professional support.

29-32

🔴 Critical – Seek Help

This relationship has strong signs of emotional abuse and control. The fear, the loss of self, the constant accusations — these are not love. Please reach out to trusted people in your life. You deserve safety and freedom. Help is available.

🚩 Red Flags Checklist

Check any that apply to your relationship:










Checked: 0/10

📞 If you need help:

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
Love is Respect: 1-866-331-9474
Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741

You are not alone.

These resources are confidential and free.

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